You’ve probably heard a selection of different answers from your friends and close family, some absolutely love the concept, and others don’t embrace the idea as much. Surely it’s only your opinion that matters? The problem is though you haven’t been able to convince yourself whether or not you should actually try it out. Should I give online dating a go? I’m here to answer some of those burning questions that you may have and hopefully, by the end of this, you’ll be able to make your mind up.
I’m like a walking advert when it comes to online dating. You name the dating site and I’ve tried it – “Tinder, OkCupid, Eharmony, Zoosk – the list goes on! And the thing is, I’ve had a lot of success and a lot of failures, but you need to first think about your expectations when it comes to dating online, are you in it just for the sex, or are looking for your next girlfriend? There’s no problem with just looking for a sexual partner, however, there will be women on these sites that are looking for something more long-term and not just a casual F**k buddy.
Here’s the thing, there are a lot of misconceptions and fears about online dating and I for one have heard a lot of horror stories about regularly using one. These stories can then prevent lads from giving dating sites a try. There are good and bad in a lot of things, and while I can’t promise everyone’s experience will be as great as some as the ones that I have had I do of course think it is worth a shot!
When it comes to the internet, there is not much that people aren’t doing. The question is whether the people that are on these dating sites are worth meeting and asking out on a date. You will be surprised my friend… Imagine online dating like farting in public. A large number of people do it but many won’t admit to it! Unlike farting in public, though, online dating’s stigma is quickly going away. If you actually talk to some of these people you know, you will be surprised at how many are actually signed up to some of these sites.
Who cares? You have nothing to worry about! Remember what my answer was to question 1? Remember there are many people that you will know that will have a dating profile online. That’s nothing to be embarrassed about; dating online is just another way of meeting someone, just like meeting someone in your local coffee shop or night out on the town!
If one of your mates is trying to judge you on trying to find a girlfriend online well then maybe they’re just not someone you should have as a friend. However, if you are writing bullsh*t on your profile then expect to be pulled up on it. Just be honest, people and women especially should like you for who you are not for someone that you are pretending to be!
Another thing to consider: On most dating sites, they require members to pay a monthly fee so that you can view the other profiles of other people using the site. So in essence, your profile isn’t truly public. So if someone you know stumbles onto your profile, then chances are they are signed up to the site too! Neither of you has anything to be embarrassed about. I remember stumbling across a few of my friend’s profiles on Zoosk and it ended up being really funny – and we then went on to share the experiences we had on the site and helping each other on certain sticking points.
The short answer, Yes. Of course, meeting strangers online can be considered unsafe, especially if you are meeting them in the evening and going to bar after you’ve had dinner. The thing is though, it’s no less safe than meeting someone on a night out. There has to be an element of trust in most situations, and if you ever do feel unsafe then at least you will be in a public environment.
With that being said, it is a good idea to take the necessary precautions such as not posting any personal identifiable information such as your phone number or address on your dating profile. It’s only best to give out that information when you feel comfortable enough to share it with someone. Make sure when you get to the point of meeting someone that you schedule the date in a public place, let someone know where you are and so on.
Honestly? Yes, but I can only talk from my own experience. You can’t expect to meet someone straight away. It also depends on what you are looking for. Are you looking for casual sex or someone more long-term? One thing I can say it that don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Learn from your experiences and from meeting other people. You soon start to understand the patterns of dating online and what you should and shouldn’t say. Everybody is different and everyone reacts in different ways.
Personally, I believe that dating online is just another tool you can use to meet someone great. But you need to find that out for yourself. You may not enjoy it at first, but stick at it because you never know, success might be just around the corner. There is a reason why the online dating market is making a lot of money, and that’s because a lot of men and women are finding a lot of success from doing. If anything just give the online dating thing a go and find out for yourself. Good luck!