Everyone’s dating online nowadays. Whether you’re after casual one night stands, or looking for something long term, you need a strategy when it comes to putting together your profile. Here’s our guide to winning at online dating.
There’s no getting around it. Humans are shallow, shallow, filthy creatures, and we like looking at pretty things. That means if you’re a good-looking guy, you’re going to mop up in the online adult dating field. Then you’ve just got that traditional problem of being good-looking; underdeveloped personality, AKA dullest man alive syndrome.
If you’re a powerfully average looking fellow, it’s pretty straightforward how you go about succeeding. Here are the basic groundings for picking the perfect set of three or four profile pictures
Seems pretty straightforward, right? Scrolling through dating apps, apparently not. Here are the things you absolutely have to avoid.
Write a Decent Bio
You don’t really have to put too much effort in here. No laundry lists of facts and opinions. Don’t put down more than one or two funny, intriguing sentences. The goal here is to be charismatic, remember. Charisma can be boiled down to humour and mystery, so pouring out a dry pile of facts and opinions kills both of those.
Don’t try and be cute either. No ‘animal lover’ in your bio or anything like that. It’s transparent and obvious, and slightly patronising. Plus you don’t want girls to think you’re adorable, anyway, even if they do fall for it. Come on.
When it comes to messaging girls, you’ve got to bear a couple of things in mind. Don’t be creepy, and don’t be boring. That’s about it. You’re one of many guys vying for her attention, so if you’re the guy who is slightly funny, original, with a solid profile, and zero overtones of creepiness, you’re going to get somewhere.
What you want to do is ask her out for a drink or a date as quickly as possible. People don’t spend hours messing around on dating apps, and you’ve got to remember you’re one of several guys messaging her right now. Be the guy who’s biting the bullet and actually asking her out, just make sure you’ve built up enough good feeling and interest first.
Unfortunately, meeting someone online doesn’t happen overnight. You absolutely need to keep at it for a couple of weeks, at least. Sure, you might meet someone in your first seven seconds of digital singledom, but it might take you two weeks. Don’t get disheartened and give up.
If you’re not getting much back, honestly, chances are, you made a mess of something. Whether it’s your bio, photo choices, or the way you’re talking, re-evaluate and change your tactics. You’ll get there.