Now the New Year has finally arrived, many singletons step up their games in terms of adult dating and finding their new match. What are you looking for this January? Are you a no strings attached, illicit encounters kind of person or are you looking for something more serious?
We are all different but it’s crucial that we strive to look for someone (no matter how short or long term they may be), to make us happy and feel fulfilled. Whether you have just come out of a long-term relationship or just enjoy a life where you have many casual encounters, let’s have a look at why Adult Dating Online is must for this New Year. In this blog, I’m going to break down Adult Dating into three categories so you’ll be able to see which one that you may fall into, or if you spread across between all three.
Online dating is no longer for the weirdos who cant find a date, as more and more people go online to find fun. During an April 2017 survey, 84 percent of dating app users stated that they were using online dating services to look for a romantic relationship.Online dating services are consistently most popular with users between 18 and 29
Now for many of you coming out of a long-term relationship, the thought of getting back out into the dating world is enough to put you off, especially if the people that you meet are looking for something more serious. We are all human and we do of course have needs. Just like when you’re hungry, thirsty or tired, sex plays a massive role in most adults dating lives. Having a sexual desire is nothing to be embarrassed about and sometimes getting a “fuck buddy or a friend with benefits” is all that you really need.
So I’m sure you have heard about your friends finding someone and it’s that kind of relationship that many people desire, especially when a large number of us lead very busy lives. So how do you go about finding a local shag?
I remember when I came out of a long-term relationship a few years back. I needed sex. Badly. But I couldn’t deal with starting a relationship with someone new. Like many, I had absolutely no idea how to get a casual partner like the ones my friends had been talking about. So what did I do? I turned to the internet of course…
I first went to Google and started to look through “hook up dating” sites and the results absolutely blew me away. Who would have thought how many sexy girls there were, and most amazingly, how close they were! At first, I was slightly intimidated to even message some of these women, but then I thought, fuck it, and just went for it! It was mind-blowing to see how many girls on the site that I recognised and even knew! So I decided to commit and finally signed up to a dating site and my life changed forever!
I started chatting with a few girls for a couple of days and most of it was flirty but a little timid at the same. I then came across the profile of this absolute blonde bombshell of a girl who had bright blue eyes and body to die for. So what did I do? Messaged her of course. She was so out of my league, but to my surprise, we spoke for the best part of a week until we finally decided to meet up. That night she drained me like I had never experienced in my life. I was surprised at how easy it was to find a local girl to bang with no strings attached also!!
After my numerous sexual encounters with other women online, I wanted to make sure that other men out there knew how easy it was to find women online for those types of relationships. You may be thinking that you’re not that type of person to jump into bed with someone that you hardly know, but honestly, I used to think like that. As long as you show your partner respect then you have everything to gain and nothing to lose!
Is there a secret recipe for finding something more sustainable online in terms of dating or are you better off finding that special person during your normal day to day life? With so many different apps, profiles and websites to sift through, finding something more long-term online can seem rather daunting, to begin with. There are some pretty interesting success stories out there, and I have asked a number of long-term couples to give their advice that they would give to hopefuls looking to find love online.
Don’t look for the perfect person – In short, no one is perfect, including yourself. You need to get that out of your head straight away as this will be one of the main reasons as to why you will struggle to find that special person on any online adult dating site. With online dating, it is easy to think the grass is greener on the other side. You may think that one more date with someone else may lead you to that flawless person. But with the of constantly pursuing perfection may mean that you risk overlooking the potential in other people that you meet.
Don’t give up, go on the second date – Even for some of us guys, the thought of a first date is quite nerve-racking as you want to come across as well as you do on your first meeting. After all you never have a second chance to make a first impression. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself early on. I always try to enjoy the process above everything because you’re going to make mistakes along the way and also, you’re going to meet certain women that don’t fit your criteria.
So what can we do when we go on a date and the person you are with doesn’t make much of an impression? Well, the obvious is befriend them, there is no harm in having lots of female friends. And why is it great to have lots of female friends..? Because they have lots of female friends too who you can potentially meet. So try not to expand your ways of thinking when you are in this type of scenario.
So what happens when you think you have met that perfect someone through adult dating online? OMG, it’s happening, everybody Stay calm, STAY FUCKING CALM!! The last thing you want to do comes across needy. So just take your time and play it cool. You’re in no rush, and I assume, neither is she. So just spend more time getting to know her and what makes her tick and don’t let your expectations get the better of you. Think about where her thoughts are. You may be at the point where you really like her and want to develop the relationship, but she may be taking things slower and be at an earlier stage.
So that then leaves another important question, how do you know if she is really into you? Let me try and break this down for you, it is wise to bear in mind that every woman is different, so take these points as more of a guide rather than following it to the letter:
She only makes plans last minute – If you and this special lady are only making plans either the day before or on the day itself then it’s obvious that you are not a priority in her life. You may be more of a Plan B when her other plans don’t materialise. Have you ever heard the saying, “don’t make someone a priority when they only make you an option”? Do you think that this possibly applies to you? If so then it can be a sign that this relationship isn’t so serious for her.
You haven’t met her family or any of her close friends – From past experiences and I, of course, can only speak for myself when saying that when you’re at the stages of seeing someone then it is important that your partner makes you part of their lives and not just a mystery man. When you’re someone’s dirty little secret, it’s most likely because they don’t want to invest in the idea of having a long-term relationship with you.
She never texts first (Unless It’s A Booty Call) – This one is really hard to admit to yourself. The conversations that you have may be fun and exciting and she may ask you some questions about how your day has gone, but who is making all of the efforts? Go on, go and check your text messages, are you reaching out to her first all of the time? This may be a sign that you need to cut this short…
She often seems too busy to see you – This is an obvious one for me. No one is too busy to make time for someone that they really like. I don’t have much to say regarding this point but don’t be an idiot and wait for her, you’re better than that, get out there and find someone who will make the time for you. A woman who is into you will often go out of her way to spend time with you.
She says she is not looking for anything serious – This, of course, is the most obvious one. Communication is key after all. If she tells you that she isn’t interested in anything long-term, then respect her feelings and look for someone who is! If they’re upfront about how they are feeling and explain that they are not looking for anything serious, then you should believe them and take them at their word. Don’t get upset if it doesn’t evolve into the committed relationship you were hoping for when she told you from the beginning that she wasn’t in looking for that.
There is nothing wrong that falling in both short term and long term dating. It’s up to you to go out and date the people that you want to, and a lot of the time it means that you have to kiss a few frogs and go on a couple of dates to find the right person for you.
You may start out being more short term when it comes to dating, and there is nothing wrong with that when you bear in mind other women’s feelings and make it absolutely clear to them. You’ll find that a lot of the time your feelings will grow for people naturally the more time you spend with them. Online dating is all about trying things out and finding what works best for you!
Your friends may give their opinions when it comes to your dating life, and why shouldn’t they? Hopefully, your close mates only have your best interests at heart and will often put you in either the “short term or long term” categories, but you need to make sure you are doing what works best for you. Communication is key so be sure to tell them what you are doing and what your feeling is – if they are good enough friends then they will respect the process in which you are embarking on.
Above everything else guys, I know I have mentioned it a couple of times already, but just enjoy being single and the process of finding someone or meeting new people. There are plenty of interesting women out there and it is up to you to find out who you think would complement your personality the most and someone that you can build a strong partnership with. I look forward to reading your experiences below!
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